During the past 15 years when I have specialized in working with couples, I have been impressed with the growth which many couples create. The characteristics which encourage people in relationships to become "Master Couples" include the ability to fully and actively understand one another and to differentiate (i.e. work their own side of the street rather than concentrate on the laundry list of problems concerning their partner).
With this foundation, couples achieve the best results through co-creating and moving toward a vision of their future. Working through the issues within the relationship takes on a unique yet natural course when viewed through the process of healing and growth. Whereas relief of pain is often the motivation for initiating change, well-being is the motivation to sustain the process. The seeds of destruction or healing growth are present in each relationship. Our choice is which seeds to water and fertilize.